Blog 2 in the Series on the Power of Asking For Help - Gaining Wisdom

Gaining Wisdom


Blog 2 in the Series on the Power of Asking For Help -  Gaining Wisdom


 Welcome to a three-part blog series on “The Power of Asking for Help”.  The book excerpt is from one of my latest coauthoring projects, Cracking The Rich Code.  This book features Best Selling Author and one of the World’s Top 20 Success Coaches and Top 50 Speakers in Jim Britt and Kevin Harrington, Star of the Hit TV Show Shark Tank.  In addition, the book is endorsed by Tony Robbins.

 The focus of my book chapter was on The Power of Asking for Help.  This topic is near and dear to my heart because it has become a part of my story.  In fact, asking for help is the story of a lot of people.

In the first blog post, I focused on my childhood and adult experiences of asking for help.  In this blog, I focus on my Biblical and Life Experiences.

 When we go it alone, it can lead to unexpected challenges, especially if we don’t have a Christ-centered life.  I’ve found that trusting God and the direction He has laid out for me is the best way to live.

 Enjoy this blog post about asking for help.


Biblical Experiences


When I allowed my curiosity to guide me, I found that asking for help is embedded in our DNA from the source who has created us. The King James Version of the Bible mentions the word help 264 times. Why? Our redemptive God understands that humans were created with limits and can't do everything independently. In fact, the God of all things cares about our needs and our ability to find answers in Him.

 Perhaps this explains why there are approximately 3,294 questions in the Bible. The reason for this is simple: when we ask for help through the power of questions, discernment, and confidence, we come to conclusions, peace, and understanding.

 Moreover, help is commonly found with the word ask or asking in front of it. According to The Britannica Dictionary, the word ask has two meanings:


  1. To request an answer to a question. Such as, "If you ask anything in my name, I will do it." John 14:14
  2. To request something more than just an answer such as directions, or help, as in, "Seek, and you find; knock, and it will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7


The Bible also addresses requesting help, "Let your requests be made known to God." Philippians 4:5

 All this scripture involves asking, requesting, and helping provide critical information on how we gain answers to questions through prayer and an intimate relationship with Christ. 

 Here are some additional scripture verses centered around asking for help:

 "Whatever you ask in my name, this I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it." John 4:13-14

 "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you find; knock, and it will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7

 "Whatever you ask in name, this I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son." Matthew 21:22

 "And this is the confidence that we have toward Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us." 1 John 5:14.

 Besides solutions and answers to questions, confidence was one of the greatest gifts I received in my life journey. This confidence developed from a more intimate prayer relationship with God, daily self-improvement, and the support and encouragement from the people I surrounded myself with.

 My experience led me to create the True Outcome Formula:

 God + Help = Hopeful Outcomes

 You might be asking, "Why hopeful outcomes?" Hopeful outcomes focus on positivity, optimism, and possibilities.

 Look at other words connected to help encourage, support, alleviate, further, promote, assist, aid, be of service, solution, benefit, comfort, guidance, and cooperation. These are positive and promising words. On the other hand, the opposite of help can be experienced as hindering, afflicting, missing, staying in place, lingering, refraining, and disorganizing. What way would you prefer to live?

 When you go to God and ask for help, He will not abandon you. He will go to work through people and prayers. While making your request, expect to experience a feeling of anticipation that something good will occur through your Father.


Life Experiences


I don't know about you, but being supportive, solutions-oriented, and encouraging gives me much more peace than being hindered or staying in place. But, even with that, the obstacles you can run up against can paralyze you if you don't know what they are and how to fight through them. As I work with men, the following Four Obstacles of Fear frequently appear in our coaching sessions.

The Four Obstacles of Fear

  1. Fear of Rejection
    This is a biggie. So many people have been taught that asking for help is a weakness. This misinformation keeps us from asking questions or seeking support. We fear being rejected or laughed at, so we don't ask for the help we desperately need.

 Some of my most significant victories happened by being bold, brave, and taking a risk by asking for the help you need.

 TRUE MAN TIP: Like anything, this may take practice. The worst thing that can happen is you may be told "No." However, if overcoming your fear doesn't work the first time you try, keep working on it.

  1. Fear of Uncertainty
    Whenever we take a risk, we take an action with an uncertain result.

 Life is full of unknowns and fears, considering what will happen next. Even though you can't change things outside of your control, the way you think is the key to dealing with challenging situations and meeting the unknown with confidence. 

 TRUE MAN TIP: View the unknown as an opportunity to experience something new and turn a negative thought into a positive self-belief. 

  1. Fear of Authenticity
    Do you want people to love you for you or the disguise you hide behind? What is looking back at you if what you see in the mirror isn't your authentic version of yourself?

 If your mantra is "Fake it until you make it," you may be hiding behind something you're not.

 TRUE MAN TIP: To lose this imposter, you must face and embrace who you truly are. Being vulnerable can help us understand ourselves better while cultivating and strengthening our relationships. It can also help us better understand our growth opportunities, enhance our self-awareness, and flex our emotional intelligence muscles.

  1. Fear of Feeling Unworthy

It's comfortable to compare yourself to others. Do you even find yourself competing via cars, houses, and money? It can lead you to tell yourself that you're no good, and it might begin to feel like everyone is against you. 

 Don't fall for this type of victim mentality; it puts the focus on suffering instead of solutions.

 TRUE MAN TIP: We all have something to contribute to the world. Find ways to increase your self-worth. Remember: Even those who look like they have everything together, have struggles too.

Are you letting fear get in your way?

 What if life didn’t have to be like that?  I believe it’s possible because I’ve lived it.  We all have pain points that can hold us back in life.  The question is, are you going to allow that to happen?

 I hope you understand you are worthy of more in your life.  My invitation to you is, to explore that opportunity.  Please reach out to me today.




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